Everyone is looking for happiness, when, I believe, they are searching for meaning. Call it love. Call it a fulfilling job. It’s meaning. Because of a lack of meaning, we do things we think will make us happy but instead, drives meaning and happiness away.
When someone says they want a job that they feel more passionate about, or work that is fulfilling, they are looking for meaning.
When a person says they want someone to love and care for, and to be loved and cared for, they are looking for meaning.
Through coaching hundreds of people, I see a pattern of wanting to do good things that will actually make them feel worse. This article begins a bit philosophical, but moves to practical tools.
The COACH Model for Christian Leaders has been out for 7 years now. More people read it last year than any other year before. That’s not the usual sales curve for books!
Why? Because the traditional ways of working aren’t working any longer. We need new approaches to old issues. Coaching skills make a difference.
Millennials have a high value toward growth and learning. They are hungry for mentoring. But there’s often a mismatch between the assistance older leaders try to provide and what Millennials want. Here’s the kind of mentoring that will benefit Millennials.
Millennials, those born between 1981 – 1996, now make up one half of the work force. Learning and development are essential job benefits for Millennials. If you don’t offer relevant learning and growth opportunities, you won’t attract Millennials to your organization or keep them.
In coaching, why is important. Why the client wants to achieve that. Why they reacted the way they did. Understanding why helps the client to change. As important as why is, I rarely use the word “why” in a question. Why? I’ll tell you.
How much of life happens to you versus you make it happen? Your answer will reveal a glimpse at your future. Your success in the things that matter to you depends on your answer to this question. Here’s what you can do to improve.
Does life happen to you, or do you make it happen? This question separates high achievers from the crowd – in every field. It’s a question of personal autonomy, choice, and personal responsibility.
We’ve suspected this, and let me confirm it. We hear what we want to hear, not what’s actually said. Here are 4 reasons why that happens, and 3 ways to change it.
Listening is more of a psychological process than a physical act.
We’re all trying to help people change. Yet, changes are too few and too slow. The biggest reason is we’re focused on the wrong thing. By moving conversations from WHAT, the behaviors, to WHY, the meaning underneath those behaviors, we can see real change. Here’s how.
I worked with a group of CEOs to help them move from micromanaging to a more developmental approach with their teams. Five minutes into my workshop, one CEO became a bit animated. “If we hired qualified people, I wouldn’t have to develop them,” he said. “I don’t have time for this!”
Back in the 1980s John Grisham was a busy, young lawyer – who wanted to write a book. He had the vision to write, but little free time. Does this sound familiar? Here’s his story and how you can achieve your big goal.
Grisham couldn’t stop working. He had a young family and a busy practice. What he could do was become intentional. He decided to go to his office early and write just one page a day. And he kept going. Week after week, he continued writing a page a day, until 3 years later his first novel, A Time To Kill, was completed.